How to Survive Cuffing Season
I feel your pain brothers (and sisters). Everywhere you look you see happy couples boo’d up enjoying life and I know deep down its hurting you. The sun goes down sooner these days and the air gets colder and colder. The holidays are coming up and you don’t have a bae to take home to the family. There isn’t even anyone to buy you a sweet Christmas gift. You can admit it’s getting to you, you’re ok, this is a safe place. I’ve been there so I can speak from a position of experience. Believe me when I say there is light at the end of the tunnel. I’m going to help you so you have what it takes to prosper this cuffing season. If you take these words to heart you will be alright.
First things first, you have to come to terms with your past. Let it go. Get rid of the pain, the anger, the grudges, just let it all go. Move on it ain’t doing you no good! There comes a time where as an adult you must come to terms with your mistakes, learn from them so that they aren’t repeated. If you’re trying to move forward in life you cannot keep dwelling on things that already happened because you can’t change them. Only focus on things that you can control.
The key to everything you want is being comfortable with yourself. The more you believe in yourself, the more people will recognize your dopeness. When people see you’re dope they’ll want to be around you. If you aren’t comfortable with yourself at the moment do things that will make you better. Read a book, go to the gym, learn a new skill, change up your look, do whatever you have to do to bring yourself closer to being the dopest person you can. Make sure you’re pushing yourself and trying new things. It would be dope to make memories with somebody, but don’t miss your chance at a memorable experience just because you don’t have anyone to share it with. Be fucking interesting.
You can’t go out there looking for something perfect. Don’t try to force a relationship. You have to live your life. Instead of trying to force shit like a rookie let the game come to you like a veteran. If you stake your happiness solely on finding another person you’ll rush into something that won’t last and find yourself unhappy. Live your life, be cognizant of what’s going on. Don’t settle for the first thing that comes your way, make sure it’s right. If it happens it happens, but if it doesn’t keep on living your life.
If you want to survive cuffing season you have to stay
away from things that make you sad. It’s natural to feel lonely sometimes, but it seems like some people feed off of that shit. It seems like people do things to intentionally prolong those sad feelings. That’s the worst possible thing you can do because in those moments you aren’t growing. Turn off those sad songs. Put the alcohol down. Get out of the house. Go do something dope. Wallowing in sadness isn’t going to help you out.
Stop comparing yourself to other people too. When you’re on social media wondering why you can’t find happiness you have to realize something; most people are only showing you the highlights of their lives. You can’t compare your low points to their highs because well that doesn’t make sense. Another way that social media dooms you is when you start creeping. A few taps onto an old fling’s page and you’ll find your feelings hurt. Like I said earlier let go of the past. If somebody doesn’t care about you there’s no reason why you should be wasting time and effort on them.
Not having a bae doesn’t mean that you have to be alone either. You have friends and family right? Cherish them. Show them that you care. Joy can come from a variety of places, don’t put heightened value of finding a relationship when you have valuable people in your life that will give you love and affection.
If you take these ideals to heart you’ll find yourself better able to deal with the season. Keep in mind that there’s no easy fix. There’s no way that you can wake up tomorrow and be the person you’ve always wanted to be. You have to put in the work. You have to do the little things. If you work on yourself you’ll end up better for it and you’ll notice everything else that you’re looking for starting to fall into place. You can make it through, I promise you can. Go out there and make me proud.